I spent a lot of my growing up years struggling with anxiety and depression which resulted in eating disorders and self-medicating with drugs and alcohol. I struggled my way through college and didn’t believe in myself at all. My only goal was to finish. I didn’t think I was smart. I didn’t think I was beautiful. I didn’t think I got to have a career I loved, or one where I got paid a decent wage. I didn’t even think I was unhappy when I was REALLY unhappy. I really believed life was about suffering and suffering I was doing really well. It wasn’t until I started Coach Training in my mid-30’s that I learned I could create a life where depression and anxiety didn’t run my days.
I had years of therapy and feel so grateful for all it, but coaching was different. Coaching was like therapy on steroids and in a very “stop the pity party” sort of way. It helped me identify my anxiety and the thinking underneath it, enabling me to be more conscious about and choose my thoughts. I learned to relate to my depression like a north star. If I feel depressed, I know I have to take action because something isn’t right in my life. I didn’t have to live depressed forever. I feel lucky for that. I know many, many people who suffer with depression and anxiety aren’t able to manage it the way I’ve been able to. (And I believe strongly that therapy and medications for depression and anxiety are useful and have helped me tremendously, it just wasn’t a cure for me.)
I still struggle with life. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t, but coaching gave me so many tools to deal with the struggle and, ultimately, make life a pretty good thing.