My way of life and coaching style can be summed up in one phrase: “Don’t buy into that crap.”
And by “crap” I mean the messages you tell yourself that are not constructive or loving. The messages that get between you, the life you want to create and feeling that life, the one you desire, is available to you.
Envisioning a life you want, but not taking the action to make it happen can leave you feeling anxious, frustrated and even despondent. Uncovering the stories you have about what you do and don’t deserve and what’s possible and not impossible is essential to moving forward and getting what you want.
I have my theories about where these stories (which your brain insists are real) originated. Sometimes it’s environmental. Sometimes it’s connected to the structures of living in a society that prides itself on meeting certain criteria (race, socioeconomic status, gender, family, etc.) in order to succeed. Sometimes it’s just because you were never taught to be kind to yourself and realize that you are truly enough.
Regardless of the source, the truth is that these stories are not YOU. They’re not your true self.
When you cut through the BS stories your brain tells you, the worries you have about external validation, and what you think you have to do or achieve to be happy… it’s amazing how grounded and balanced and at peace you will feel. It’s from that place, one of being grounded and balanced and at peace, that you can create exactly the life you want.